Singleness

While I usually talk about avoiding being a victim, I think it worth while to explore the aspect of living single.

I hear much about people who are lonely and wanting to be in a relationship. However, are you ready for a new relationship if you have recently become 'single' and unattached? Give yourself a break. Relationships can be difficult and time consuming.

It is important to analyze what went wrong with the last one. What was your part in the breakup? Nothing you say? Think again. These areas of your personality need to be polished and made acceptable to a partner.

Perhaps you just made a poor choice in your partner. Make a list of negotiable and non-negotiable traits that you will accept in another person. Then make a list of areas where you could improve yourself.

And then don't go looking for that ideal partner. Instead, go about enjoying your personal space for a while. The freedom it gives you, and the fact that you can do what you want without regard to being responsible for some one else's time frames, wants and needs should empower you. In other words, just take care of yourself.

Take some classes or go to that museum you have long wanted to visit. There are many opportunities available to someone who wishes to broaden their knowledge base, or even just enjoy doing something in which their previous partner would not participate.